Its been a long time since i last blogged so i guess i will concentrate alot of stuff on this blog alone. this "lifesaving love.com" blog.However as for the other two its like me being sidetracked and trying to be someone i'm not.Haah the "simple direct specific " was made because i liked readinf John C. maxwells' book so much i thought i could be a leader.well do i have the gift in the frist place?i only know i can connect with pple very well.At the same time i think i should be more decisive when it comes to stuff.By the way why did i say this was because i want to address this issue of pressuring people to come to cell groups.

Firstly i understand cell leaders and their respective helpers care for each member's spiritual coverage.However one must learn to be considerate and understanding.the story went when one day after a family outing i was a deat beat cos we were doing this "expedition" at bukit timah hill...so i came back dirty ans sweaty and needed to sleep.However there was a cell group goin on so i wnated to rest.Each time my phone rang i got nervous.Cos i knew wats gonna happen.Someone would call and tell me loads of stuff on why i should go to cell groups.Yes its for my benefit but please be understanding when u genuinely are.U can talk to a person and say "i comprehend,i understand", when in the first place u dont.Its like asking a mother whose child was a victim of cholera who has scores of hope to be cured to sympathise with a mother whose child died in a car accident.Ok why am i talking about death???? lets ut it another way.Get a rock guitarist to talk to a banking and finance officer.Half the time both parties have no idea wats each other talking about.

Anyway,Its true that when one of the members called and told me to come to cell group either way,i hesitated and couldnt find a stand to say yes or no.so most of the time i kept silent.It must have irritated the person so the phone was passed to the cell leader.And then i got loads of stuff that told me off saying i pay lip service to God only.And i guessed its my indecisiveness that made my cell leader say such shockingly rough words.Must have irritated him so i guess it my fault. But anyway humans talk in any manner when they are mad.So i forgave both of them after i put down the phone.After all i irritated them.And one cant expect everyone to be perfect.

Secondly i surveyed most of my members about cell group relations.Most of them told me they would rather prefer to have another cell member calling them up to just have a genuinely heart to heart chat than to mention church and bible stuff.The bible says let everything have balance.Yes we have the mind of christ but we dont have to force the bible on each other all the time.Unless someone asks for a revelation.If need be,cut ur revelation short.Dont preach a long winded sermon that serves to confuse,and occasionally ,irritate people.Come straight to the main point.Further more a simple encouraging word or phrase is strong enough to build someone up. U cant recite word for word from a 300 page novel,let alone a 50 page nove can you?In a relationship,the most impactable phrase is "i love you".Such a simple phrase causes guys to smile day in day out..girls to be smiling dreamily ..hahah.So its like feeding on a bite sized nuggte that grow in u like a seed being sown.U dont have to sow so many seeds in a person's soul and then have weeds growing all over.Talk about overcrowding conditions.AHhaa science project in primary school.

I dont mean to to offend anyone but please act in love.coming to church and stuff is a willing act,not something that people have to push u or to be monitored.That can make u feel controlled and "cultish",like how cults use militaristic and nasty means to make sure u dont stray away.So please.If a member doesnt come..he or she loses out for that day..but it doesnt mean he or she is straying away!!people want to be treated nicely.pressuring them,even if they are a believer or not..is obviously not acting in love.And most of my fellow members agree to this!!